Saturday, September 7, 2013

My LIfe is an Oprah Episode...You Never Whaaat? - A Re-post.

This is a repost from a while ago....the other day I was having a discussion about certain foods that I have never tried...things like Pop Tarts; why that is shocking, well, shocks me.  I remembered I had blogged about it before, as well as other factoids...so, here it is again.  I have been focusing on a project I do every year with the Jimmy V Celebrity Golf Classic, and because it takes up a great deal of time and mental energy, I have not written in a while.  At least, that is the excuse I am using today.  But, here goes the re-post.  Oh, the  Eyedews mention -- well, I am still in love with them, and they have changed their name to : ToGoToSpa.com  and have enhanced their product.  You can still mention my name.

Since I've connected with several bloggers around the country, I now have some new readers ....many of whom do not know me, except what is written in my blog.  Some of the bloggers are young mothers, finding their way around juggling parenting with working or going to school; some bloggers are seasoned travelers who write about lots of interesting places and cultures, and some, like me, write whatever comes to their mind on any given day, on any subject and hope the journal makes sense, or entertains, or enlightens in some way.

I received a lot of feedback when I wrote about some of my likes and dislikes (loves and hates)....many of my readers identified with some of the things mentioned, and I continue to have conversation, pro and con, about some of the things I wrote about.  It never ceases to amaze me how some people get offended if I do not agree with their view.  Maybe offended is not the correct word...but, I have friends that get upset if I do not feel the same way about something as they do.  It could be about food, wine, clothing or a city.  Honestly people, we do not have to like (or dislike) the same things.

So, for those of you who do not know me, here is just a little blurb:

People Magazine has asked me to be in their Most Beautiful issue for the past five years, and George Clooney continues to stalk me on a regular basis. Okay, those are both lies; the best way to know me in the abstract, is to read the blog.....it give a sense of what I am about.  Consider the following:

I've never...............

...eaten a Pop Tart
...owned a jar of Miracle Whip
...had a Mountain Dew

...been late for school or work
...taken a cold shower
...been able to sing, except camp songs (or in the shower)
...worn polyester
...run out of gas
...gone to my Prom

My favorite:

...poet is Khalil Gibran, The Prophet holds answers to many of life's questions
...perfume/cologne is Chanel  No. 5
...color is green
...cities are New York, Rome and London
...wine is a good Cabernet Sauvignon
...TV show is Madmen
...season is Autumn
...store is Bloomingdale's
...beauty routine is scrubbing my face

I love:
...surprises - to give them and to get them (although, I have not been surprised in a while -- someone, please, surprise me!)
...Eyedews (a gel eye treatment - fabulous....  www.eyedews.com to order, mention my name in "sellers instructions"...they know me - really, they do.
...to be in love
...to be kissed, often
...to take long, hot baths.  I take Epsom Salt baths almost daily....gets rid of toxins.
...sleeping in the nude.  Haven't worn pjs or nightgown since I was in my early twenties
...very cold, Sundays when I cook and hang on the couch watching TV all day
...stay out late, and invite everyone over for breakfast at 3 in the morning
...spontaneity - calling up someone on the spur of the moment to do something or invite them to dinner
...sporting events and concerts

....some extras:

...I've taken too long to walk away from relationships that weren't good for me, and ran away too quickly from some that were good for me
...my eyes are grey, but sometimes look blue or green
...I allow myself a sad day, only once in a while
...I'm trying to meditate daily and rid distractions
...I have run in three (3) marathons
...I want to take better pictures
...I am sometimes too sensitive
...I am Pro-Choice
...I believe age is just a number


Until next time..........

Sunday, December 9, 2012

My Life Is An Oprah Episode - Regret, Remorse, Forgiveness, Holding on and Letting Go


The title of this posting is a mouthful, but, I believe Regret, Remorse, Forgiveness, Holding On and Letting Go are interwoven.

It's easy to get lost in endless speculation. So today, release the need to know why things happen as they do. Instead, ask for the insight to recognize what you're meant to learn."
-Caroline Myss

I love Tapestries.  If someone were to weave a Tapestry of my life, I would want only a small corner to be reflective of any negative experiences I have had.  But,  truthfully,  my personal history threads would be woven, colorfully, with both light and dark throughout the piece.  I used to think that some people escaped darkness in their lives.  You know, no family crisis, no financial issues,  no broken romances, no health issues, etc.  But, as I matured, I have come to know that no one is immune to life tragedies.  Our experiences are different for sure, but the key is how we manage the downside; of how we see  light reflected in the darkness.  Think of a stained-glass window.  In the daytime, we see light streaming through exhibiting all the bright colors that tell a story within that window.  When is is nighttime, or in darkness, we look at the same window, only to search for a glimmer of light which will only come  from the inside.   I know what I have always known - that whatever point we are in our life, whether light or dark, things always work out for the best.  We are exactly where we are supposed to me, this very moment, with who we are supposed to be with, or who we are not supposed to be with.  It is that simple.

Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you. - Illusions by Richard Bach

Regret.  I think we all want to live a life without regret.  I have said this a million times.  The truth is regret is nothing more than human nature wishing we made a different decision. While some choices we make have minimal consequences if things do not turn out the way we want them to, many choices are life-altering.  I have always been decisive and have little tolerance, or rather, patience, for those who take forever making a decision; for those afflicted with  analysis paralysis.  Drives me crazy.  One of the things that I regret is that I did not write sooner.  I have always had words locked in my head, yet I was afraid to free them; fear of not being heard (or read) or because the words were scattered and always looking for a path.  Pursuing a career in journalism was too daunting; I had not developed skills necessary nor the discipline to simply complete tasks.  Case in point, I have two unfinished books.  Regret is constant.

Remorse.  The difference between regret and remorse is the sorrow that follows a choice we wish we did not make.  And, usually the choice we made is shameful or has hurt someone.  Even ourselves.  I have given considerable thought to this; what am I remorseful about?  Remorse is very much aligned with guilt and self-resentment. I  am a kind person and I try not to judge people.  For me, to be simplistic,  I always feel shame when I judge someone harshly or if I am ever unkind.  It happens when I am stressed or feeling less than.  My words can be biting; my tolerance for what I consider stupidity, becomes taxing.  I am a work in progress.

Forgiveness.  Forgiveness is not just acknowledging someone who has wronged/hurt us by accepting their apology.  In some cases there is no apology.  It is about letting go of the anger and resentment we feel for their actions, and more than that.....it is about wishing them well.  I struggle with forgiveness, yet know for sure, it is the only way to live a healthy life. In the past few years, I searched for ways to forgive.  How do I forgive the person who raped me?  What about those who lied and cheated on me? The person who owed me a huge sum of money?   How do I forgive myself? Family members, workplace,...hurts on many different levels.  In my mind I had forgiven these things because I had accepted what happened and moved on.  But, that is not forgiveness; I had not really wished anyone well and still held on to a lot of the pain.  I discovered a technique I used about a year ago.  I imagined all those who hurt me; who caused me great pain and sorrow, all standing around in a large circle together, arms interlocking, all holding balloons.  When the moment came, I set them all free, attached to the balloons rising in the sky, disappearing into the abyss.  All with good wishes.  It may seem childish, but, I assure you, this exercise worked for me.  Forgive.  It is the only way to be free.  

Holding on and Letting Go.  Life is a series of letting go.  Of people, of places and of things.  Holding on is simply staying stuck when we should let go.  No where is this more evident than in relationships.  Or would be relationships.  I have said this before - that I have held on to bad relationships longer than I should have, and let go of good ones sooner than I should have.  I was involved with someone for many years and it was a dead end relationship.  What began as a friendship for several years, ended up as a love affair. We had great times, but, the fact was, he was married, so it was a dead end.  I do not write this with a sense of pride, nor with shame, and that may be difficult for some to understand.  I may write about it in another blog, and, I am not searching for judgement.  For now, it is just the facts.  I held on to the relationship for a long time.  I loved him; I did not analyze it every time we were together.  It ended more than once, but, finally I let go. Without tears, because, it was time.  It does not mean I do not think of him, and miss him, but, it is done.

A cloud does not know why it moves in just such a direction and at such a speed, it feels an impulsion....this is the place to go now. 
But the sky knows the reason and the patterns behind all clouds, and you will know, too, when you lift yourself high enough to see beyond horizons. - Illusions by Richard Bach.

I am glad to be back blogging.  Life got in the way.  Until next time.

Monday, April 16, 2012

My Life Is An Oprah Episode: A Rant

disclaimer:  Any posts written by me are my beliefs, my feelings and my opinions.  It is not my intent for any individual or individuals to change how they feel or what they believe about any given topic.  


I am a Democrat.  I have many friends who share my views, and many friends who do not.  In fact, I probably have more friends that are Republicans, not Democrats.  I do not hold that against them, and I believe I share that same courtesy. Since we are in the middle of an election year, we are inundated with propaganda, and quite frankly, I think everyone is a little nuts.

In support of Obama, he did inherit a huge mess, with the economy and with a war we had no business being in. He did.  If it were someone else, they would have inherited the mess.

It is delusional to assume that any other individual in office, namely, McCain, would have been able to make progress at an accelerated pace and solve all our economic problems in less than four years.  For me, I am not impressed with any of the Republican candidates.  Mitt Romney IS out of touch with the average American. And, he still cannot answer a direct question about how he feels about equal rights for women.  I have little regard for Newt Gingrich; does not really matter, he is basically out.  And, Rick Santorum?  Seriously?  Ideology from the middle ages; good thing for us he is out, but he did provide some pretty good bantering from feminists.

The past few months have been a roller coaster ride from the Republican groups.  I believe, wholeheartedly, that the GOP is (still) waging a War On Women, especially regarding health issues.  Here in 2012, we are still arguing over rights for women, wanting to change the definition of rape, limit access to safe abortions, some states wanting to invade a womans body by performing vaginal ultrasounds pre-abortion, and other health related areas.  When the Catholic Church raised a ruckus about insurance companies paying costs relating to contraception, make no mistake, this was a Political issue; a money issue.  The Catholic Church employs many non-Catholics and those employees are not forced to follow Church doctrines on birth control.  I am a Catholic, and I was outraged with the rhetoric that followed.

When I read posts on my Facebook about how this country was founded on Religious freedom, etc, and how we are screwing it up, it makes me a little crazy.  Look, we HAVE religious freedom in this country, but, that does not mean we have to be governed by any religious edicts.  At the time our country was founded, women were also considered property of her husband and her identity did not exist. When I read posts about how Capitalism is now compromised, and that government wants to control all aspects of business, yeah, I go a little nuts.

Yes, we need and should have Universal Healthcare.  Scream Socialism all you want, but, we already have government programs....like Medicare/Medicaid, Welfare, etc...the problem is, very few of us have access to it.  Scream Socialism all you want, but we have been and continue to be, held hostage by Insurance companies, Pharmaceutical companies and the Oil companies.  We had Capitalism at it best, but, somewhere along the 60s and 70s, and by the 80s it became something else.  Capitalism turned into Corporate greed, essentially, eroded what Capitalism was supposed to be. The ratio of pay between a corporate CEO and average worker is anywhere between 300:1 to 475:1, depending on the study you read.  But, the facts are  the gap between CEO/Executive and average worker is huge and getting wider.  Small businesses have suffered as a result of high costs and lack of tax breaks that large corporations enjoy. That is where Capitalism is today.

On Immigration.  Yes, I think we need some sort of Immigration reform, but,  it needs to be a dignified process that does not separate families who have been here, working, for many years.  For those that feel the immigrants, mostly Mexicans, have taken jobs away from Americans....let me state this.  They are not taking jobs away; they are taking jobs that some Americans do not want,and,  because the employers of these jobs prefer to hire workers that they know will accept pay below minimum wages, in cash,  and where they do not have to pay benefits.  Next time you pass a construction site, you will see mostly immigrants banging nails into houses that they probably could never afford, or hope to afford by doing what they are doing.  Yes, some are here and cause problems, but most are hard working men and women who want a better life for their families.

On Guns.  We need to get guns off the streets.  When I read posts about our rights to bear arms, etc,  how Guns do not kill people, people kill people, my blood boils.  What and where is that logic?  People with guns kill people.  Reminder:  the Bill of Rights were written without considering the future crazies looking to buy a Saturday night special or an Uzi submachine gun.

Education.  Why is this not the most important issue? We should  have the highest quality education offered in public schools in all neighborhoods, not just in expensive zip codes. Parents should not have to fight to get their kids into desirable schools; they should all be equal and desirable.  But, they are not.  Our school systems are a mess because politicians have been paying more attention to the stock market, rather than investments in our children.   Honestly, we pay sports figures huge amounts of money, yet, pay paltry wages to those who shape our childrens lives and to those who keep us safe and secure.  Teachers. Cops. Firemen.  I love Derek Jeter, but even I, am appalled by his salary.

Although I began this rant about being a Democrat, I am not fooled by any party and their attempt to manipulate all of us.  I do not think we are done yet; I am frustrated with the way things are, but, remain hopeful for the future.  Because it must get better.

On a lighter note:

Here is a plug for one of my favorite things:  Eyedews....Yes, I love them, and hope you give them a try.

www.eyedews.com

Friday, January 27, 2012

My Life is An Oprah Episode - Figuring It All Out

Happy New Year!  I know it's been a little while since I last blogged, but, I am getting my groove, seemingly on strike, back.  I could say it is an intellectual interlude, however, there may be some disagreements to that sentiment.  I would also like to say I've been on a spiritual journey, reassessing my life and reflecting on the past year ready to move ahead.  Yeah, I'd like to say all that, but, that would pretty much be bull s***.  Like everyone else, I'm just trying to figure it all out.

@Alec Baldwin.....I totally get why you did not turn off your phone, as I too, have become addicted to Words With Friends.  Is there a twelve-step program in my future?  I started playing around Thanksgiving.  At first I was playing the game as I used to play Scrabble; identifying words I really did know the meaning of and rarely using a dictionary.  Now, I place letters on the board and wait for the word to be accepted or not.  That in itself has become a whole new game for me.  Usually, I have between eight and eleven games going at one time, and more than one with the same person.  Because I have so much time during the day, I have my ipad app downloaded, have the notification sound on; I'm ready all the time.  You know how it is said that when girlfriends spend a lot of time together they all get on the same cycle, well, no matter how many "friends" I am playing with, for the past few weeks, everyone has signed on and started playing with me almost at the same time.  It's quite funny.  I won't hear from anyone nearly all day long, then suddenly, I'll get notifications from four people within minutes of each other.  Most of them are in different time zones, some men, some women.  Funny.  

So, I started thinking, is playing this game sort of a metaphor for my life?  And, how many games do we all play?  What I discovered while playing Words With Friends is that I forgot how competitive I can be.  I hate to lose.  Or, do I hate for the other person to win?  Always a gracious loser in any sport I've played, this game is more about working with the hand you're dealt.  Again, metaphor. 

I don't know anyone who does not play games.  Life games. 

When I worked for American Express I was at the height of my "game".  Being in sales was a great deal of fun and I had a lot of success -- for a while--.  I would often be having conversations with friends and laughing when speaking about my job and how I was always "on".  I called it playing Corporate World.  Imagine my regular gig of doing sales presentations, selling their products, always impeccably, professionally dressed in my "amexblue" suit, usually an Ann Taylor or Ralph Lauren thing.  When I finished the meeting or presentation, I could read the body language of my audience and know, within 95% accuracy,  if the sale was going to close.  Why? How?  My best game was there.  When the markets changed, so did the game, so what worked before wasn't working anymore.  Game ended.  So did my wardrobe.

Is there a tougher game to play than in relationships?  I do not think so.  Boy, this man/woman thing. Or, man/man or woman/woman thing.  I bet if we all put a nickel in a jar for each time we have said we are looking for a relationship with someone that does not play any games, we could support a Third World Country.  That's hysterical to me.  We may not mean to do it, but, we play.  And, in most cases, the stakes are high.  Yet, so many people are afraid to risk, so the game played is that we take a time out, or give ourselves a penalty.  Remind yourself of when you were attracted to someone and never let them know, always expecting them to read your mind.  Or, better still, assume you can read someone's mind and know what they are thinking.  I have learned, finally, not to do that.  I draw conclusions based on actions.  Or, based on non-actions.  It's still a game, after all.

Finally, the games we play with ourselves.  C'mon....we do this.  You know how we all have those days when everything goes so well, you think the stars are finally aligned in your favor; you smile all day and all your relationships are clearly defined. No. Me neither. Let the games begin!  Freud had the original model for it, but, we can take it to a new level.  Yeah, it's about the ego.  Hide our feelings, pretend we don't feel things, show our feelings, manipulate others to feel things...it's all there on a daily basis.  It's our dress code.

My resolution this year is to follow my heart.  Which for me, means, trying hard not to play any games (except the really fun ones!)  I resolve to be open and honest, take some risks, even if it means doing something I later think was foolish. " Better a fool for five minutes by saying something, rather than a fool for life by not."  Sorry, I don't remember who said that, and I am probably paraphrasing as well.  But, the idea is not to have any regrets.  We all know that life is short, we all say that, all the time.  Let's just try to live everyday as if we really believe it.

Best wishes,  everyone.  Take care of yourselves, inside and out.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

My Life is An Oprah Episode - "You Never.....Whaaat?

Since I've connected with several bloggers around the country, I now have some new readers ....many of whom do not know me, except what is written in my blog.  Some of the bloggers are young mothers, finding their way around juggling parenting with working or going to school; some bloggers are seasoned travelers who write about lots of interesting places and cultures, and some, like me, write whatever comes to their mind on any given day, on any subject and hope the journal makes sense, or entertains, or enlightens in some way.

I received a lot of feedback when I wrote about some of my likes and dislikes (loves and hates)....many of my readers identified with some of the things mentioned, and I continue to have conversation, pro and con, about some of the things I wrote about.  It never ceases to amaze me how some people get offended if I do not agree with their view.  Maybe offended is not the correct word...but, I have friends that get upset if I do not feel the same way about something as they do.  It could be about food, wine, clothing or a city.  Honestly people, we do not have to like (or dislike) the same things.

So, for those of you who do not know me, here is just a little blurb:

People Magazine has asked me to be in their Most Beautiful issue for the past five years, and George Clooney continues to stalk me on a regular basis. Okay, those are both lies; the best way to know me in the abstract, is to read the blog.....it give a sense of what I am about.  Consider the following:

I've never...............

...eaten a Pop Tart
...owned a jar of Miracle Whip
...had a Mountain Dew

...been late for school or work
...taken a cold shower
...been able to sing, except camp songs (or in the shower)
...worn polyester
...run out of gas
...gone to my Prom

My favorite:

...poet is Khalil Gibran, The Prophet holds answers to many of life's questions
...perfume/cologne is Chanel  No. 5
...color is green
...cities are New York, Rome and London
...wine is a good Cabernet Sauvignon
...TV show is Madmen
...season is Autumn
...store is Bloomingdale's
...beauty routine is scrubbing my face

I love:
...surprises - to give them and to get them (although, I have not been surprised in a while -- someone, please, surprise me!)
...Eyedews (a gel eye treatment - fabulous....  www.eyedews.com to order, mention my name in "sellers instructions"...they know me - really, they do - when you mention my  name, you will receive three (3) free pairs of Eyedews!!!!
...to be in love
...to be kissed, often
...to take long, hot baths.  I take Epsom Salt baths almost daily....gets rid of toxins.
...sleeping in the nude.  Haven't worn pjs or nightgown since I was in my early twenties
...very cold, Sundays when I cook and hang on the couch watching TV all day
...stay out late, and invite everyone over for breakfast at 3 in the morning
...spontaneity - calling up someone on the spur of the moment to do something or invite them to dinner
...sporting events and concerts

....some extras:

...I've taken too long to walk away from relationships that weren't good for me, and ran away too quickly from some that were good for me
...my eyes are grey, but sometimes look blue or green
...I allow myself a sad day, only once in a while
...I'm trying to meditate daily and rid distractions
...I have run in three (3) marathons
...I want to take better pictures
...I am sometimes too sensitive
...I am Pro-Choice

Until next time..........

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

My Life is An Oprah Episode - Do Opposites Attract? Being Who We Are

Before I get into the core of my blog, because it is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I want to take a moment to remember, honor and appreciate those who have battled Breast Cancer.  My thoughts, prayers and good wishes are being sent to :  my friends who are survivors or currently in their fight, and in remission; a family member who is a two time survivor;  to my close friend and colleague, Kim, who lost her battle a couple of years ago; and to my friend who also lost his mother when time, or lack of it, became the enemy.  We will be Warriors with hope.

Many of us know individuals who are in a relationship where we are convinced that they are total opposites and wonder how they got together or even stay together.  Do I believe opposites attract?  I think that is not the real question and has nothing to do with anything. What some may see as flaws in a person, I think it is not accepting the person for who they are, so the assumption is that they are opposites.  And, for any relationship to work, we have to be who we truly are.

As I discussed in any earlier entry, we really can not identify what makes someone attractive to another.What makes us fall in love?  It can be purely a physical thing....and that has its place.  Yes, it is chemistry for sure, and that has been scientifically proven.  What makes us attractive to someone's soul?  The spiritual side of me believes the connection is non-physical , but that does not necessarily lead to love.  The components of love is so complex, it is no small wonder it's difficult to define.  I still believe that a connection with someone is made from the beginning....the first meeting, but that things going on in a person's life often get in the way of solidifying that connection.  It's the external happenings that either explore the connection, or hold us back. Sometimes being referred to as being on "the same page" with a person we are interested in, is merely external forces dictating the relationship flow.

Opposites and non-opposites attract each other.  The test is keeping the connection, or the relationship moving and growing.  What may seem like opposition may be a sense that one person is no longer tolerating what they once thought was their attraction in that person.  Being in a relationship with a high-powered corporate executive, who traveled around the world, making lots of money, may attract someone who barely leaves the house and just gets by.  The excitement, or the attraction probably would be electric in the beginning, partially because it may seem like each would balance each other from one end of the spectrum to another, but, in reality, most likely, the novelty would probably wear off.  Because, if one person is so busy traveling, the other is at home, boredom sets in for one of them, while the other is too busy to notice.  It is not that they are opposite, but, external forces are in play.  The don't get to be on the same page.   And, if they were in love, they seem to not focus on that, and communicating seems impossible.

For me,what my issue has been, is that when I have been in love with someone, I lose myself. So the person someone fell in love with, went away.  Compromise is a good thing, but, I have found, in the past, that I became only a version of myself, and that I don't compromise, I have surrendered.   It comes from a place of fear.  Fear that I won't always be good enough, or that if I am too much myself, I won't be liked.  It's crazy, and I have continued to work on this.  I have always spoken my mind, but, when I have been in love, or in serious like, I have held back.  And, I know that the key to change, is letting go of fear.  My head knows that; I am training my heart.

"Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston

Learning to love my flaws has been challenging.  So, take me as I am, or don't take me, as the saying goes!

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

My Life is An Oprah Episode - More: Things That I Love and Love to Hate

Since my last couple of postings were somewhat serious, I decided a lighthearted journal was in order.  I wrote in an earlier blog of some of my favorite things; I simply want to expound where I left off, and add some of my pet peeves.....

Movies.  I love going to the movies, and watching good films on TV.  I am not a huge Sci-fi fan, nor do I like most horror films and rarely see them.  I adore some films made way before I was born...I love Casablanca and probably have seen it at least one hundred (100) times.  And, anything with Cary Grant in it, Katharine Hepburn, or Audrey Hepburn, will get my attention.  I love independent, dramatic, dark films.....things that are not mainstream, and always have been a fan of The Godfather 1 & 2....not too much Godfather 3....seen them all many times.  If George Clooney is in a film, I will see it...and not be disappointed.  Same with Kate Winslet...she is fantastic in anything.  And I have been in love with Robert Redford forever. Oh, The Way We Were..... My favorite romantic films are Breakfast at Tiffany's and You've Got Mail.....I especially love them because they take place in New York. Love and Other Drugs with Jake Gylenhaal and Anne Hathaway is a new favorite.  Too many movies to mention....love them!

 Hottest(sex) Scene from a movie:  The limo scene from No Way Out with Kevin Costner and Sean Young.  If you have never seen it; rent or download it...does not disappoint.  I still have the fantasy of recreating the scene as a surprise birthday present for someone special!!! 

Most sensual scene:  From Out of Africa with Robert Redford and Meryl Streep, when he is washing her hair. Doesn't get better than that. Or more intimate.

Scariest movie:  The Exorcist.  Seen it only once, and that was enough.

Funniest movie:  too  many to name, but, I like Airplane, Weekend at Bernie's, Animal House, and more recently, Bridesmaids....hysterical.  Movies.  They transport us away from ourselves.  Love them.

I love my friends and I'm probably loyal to a fault.  I am also a serial flirt.  There's flirting for fun and flirting with intent.  I do both.  While it often can lack seriousness, for me flirting is also a way to strengthen a bond I have with someone in a fun, sexy way.  And, I never tease.  That is not my style.

The beach.  Crazy for it.  Mountains...love them too.  Both help restore my spirit when it has been compromised.
Pillow talk.  No sex. Just talking...side by side, for hours. 
Late night phone calls....I am always calm after the day has quieted down and never get mad if someone calls late and wants to talk.  I miss some of that now with emails and texting.

Okay....some pet peeves.  I hate when I am on line ordering something and you have to put in a code from the image shown.....it's annoying and has no purpose in my view, and looks like scribble to boot.  It drives me crazy.

I hate labels.  Literally.  On clothes, jars, etc.  I am always peeling them off.
I hate people that don't signal when they are turning or changing lanes.
I hate paper napkins and paper towels, and don't own them.
I hate conspiracy theories..
I hate guys who leave the toilet seat up.  Yep.  that's an oldie but a goodie.
I hate when someone butters their toast, then leaves crumbs in the butter dish.  Ugh.
I hate when people take up two parking spaces.
I hate people that invite you out, then cancel.
I hate greeting cards that have sparkles or confetti fall out when you open it.
I hate ice cream with freezer burn.
I hate people that are always late...really, I hate it.
I hate it when people don't return emails or phone call...makes me feel insignificant, guess it's my issue.
I hate hair on soap.  ewwww. or hair in shower drain.  ewww...ewww.
I hate that I have a draw full of cords that I have no clue what they belong to.  Cell phone? Camera?
I hate an unmade bed.
I hate wobbly tables.
I hate unsolicited advise.
Most of all.  I hate lists.

Smile.  It's the second best thing you can do with your lips.