Wednesday, October 27, 2010

My Life is an Oprah Episode - Social Masks

To live your life authentically, one needs to remove the social masks.  A social mask is a persona that we put on when we interact with other people on a daily basis.  This could be at school, workplace, or social gatherings .Exactly when I first put on my mask is unclear; I hardly know a time when I did not wear one.  I don't feel that I've been deceiving  people on purpose; I made a conscious choice not to reveal who I was - a decision that has always been based on fear.  Fear of not being well-liked, fear of not being pretty enough, smart enough, athletic enough, and so many other things that have kept me "stuck".   Psychologists will say it was due to low self-esteem, most likely, and there is a lot of truth to that. The roots to that can be traced to early childhood, I am sure, and every thing else, all the events in later years, contributed to that assumption.  Even as I write those words, it seems so self-absorbed, so trite.  I don't like excuses, but, I've come to a point in my life where I can accept explanations.

Now comes a conscious choice to remove the mask, or at least, peek out from behind it.  Some people I have known have told me that when they first met me they felt I was hard to get to know.  While I always found that remark to be strange, upon reflection, I know that what they initially saw was one of my social masks, and when I felt comfortable with them, revealed more of who I was....revealed what I wanted them to see.  I'm really not a complicated person; I'm easy.

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