"Katey's here." That is what I said as I contacted family and friends to let them know that my granddaughter was born. It was August 20, 2000, and about ten (10) years earlier than I had anticipated becoming a grandparent. She weighed in at 9lbs 3oz, and I called her Bruno. We were all surprised that Katey was so BIG, as my daughter, Heather, looked as though she had a large lunch the day before. For me, it was love at first sight.
I had heard from many friends, that although you love your children, when you have a grandchild, it is like no other love. Having my daughter taught me about what love really was; unconditional. Meeting Katey filled me with emotion that was a little foreign to me. Some of that came from the fact that my daughter was so young, and I was concerned about her parenting skills. In time that would take care of itself. I formed a very strong bond with Katey, named after me (my middle name - Katherine) before she even left the hospital.
When Katey was one week old, I was walking with Heather as she was taking Katey back to her car. Katey began to smile and as I snapped a photo with my camera, she raised her middle finger. It was so funny, but, I knew that very moment that Katey was giving us a sign that she was going to live her life on her own terms and not be concerned what anyone would think of her.
Katey has ADHD and with that comes a set of challenging situations. Blessed with a very high IQ, Katey is very creative and expressive and says exactly what she thinks. She knows how to figure things out -- it is sometimes intimidating to witness a child that can articulate the way an adult would. Yet, emotionally, she is probably a few years behind her peer group. It's hard to recognize that, often because, there is such a high expectation of her, given her intellect. Inasmuch as her behavior can make me want to pull my hair out, her endearing qualities will overshadow my frustration with her. She is delicious. Katey sees the world in technicolor; she is interested in everything around her, and she is one of the most interesting people I know. And, I can hardly wait to see how she makes her mark on the world.
Granchild. It's love. On steroids.